Causes of Gray Divorce

By: Jody Smith

According to an article on Businessinsider.com, the divorce rate among those who are 50 years of age or older doubled in 2009 what it had been in 1990. An older couple divorcing often will come as a shock to their friends and family. This can even be the case when all their friends and family also knew that the couple didn't much like each other and never really got along.

This sort of thing shouldn't really come as a surprise though because there is actually a lot of it going on and in fact it even has a name. It's known as gray divorce.

We may be tempted to wonder, if they've lasted this long, what has suddenly come along to sink the ship? But the sinking may instead of have been a long slow process rather than any type of sudden shift.

Children that need tending to are most likely no longer on the scene to distract from intimate problems or friction. Even if adult children are at home, they aren't the consuming focus any longer. A couple has also moved past the time when they may have stayed together for the children. They've put in their time protecting the youngsters and now it is time for mom and dad to finally have a shot at happiness.

What may have seemed like a happy home can suddenly be revealed as having been at the core an unhappy marital relationship making the best of things while raising children. Once that's finished, so is the marriage. Enter the gray divorce.

Retirement can be great if you enjoy each other's company. It may also turn into the final straw that blows a couple apart. If you didn't much like each other before, having hours and days together may be more than you can stand. Even couples who aren't at odds may find this time period to be an eye-opener, with children and work now off the table as preoccupying focuses, they may realize they just don't have much in common anymore. Liking each other may not be enough.

Gray divorces are sought by women two-thirds of the time. Unlike in past decades, more women are financially able to be independent and feel less like they have to have a man in their lives.

Researchers from Bowling Green University posited that a factor in whether a couple may divorce is whether or not they have had a divorce in the past. People who were married once or twice before had a 150 percent higher risk of ending up in a gray divorce. Among people who had been married for 30 years or longer, 60 percent stayed together.

Jody Smith is a freelance writer for Empowher.com.

Sources:

The Single Factor That's Causing Divorce Rates Among Boomers To Soar

http://www.businessinsider.com/divorce-rates-among-seniors-2012-3

Retirement-Age Baby Boomers Experience High Divorce Rate

http://www.retirementlifematters.com/in-the-news/retirement-age-baby-boomers-experience-high-divorce-rate-0222/

Related Links:

Signs of Stress in Children of Divorce

http://www.empowher.com/relationships-amp-family/content/signs-stress-children-divorce

Top 10 Reasons for Divorce

http://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/top-10-reasons-divorce

Minimizing the Effects of Divorce on Children

http://www.empowher.com/relationships-amp-family/content/minimizing-effects-divorce-children

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