Looking for Love? Jump back into the Dating Pool

By: Jody Smith

If you are a senior, chances are your first date was a long time ago. But if you are interested in some companionship, friendship, and perhaps romance, you must delve back into the dating pool.

Though the desire for human companionship, a mate, is a feeling that never changes, you can bet the ways and means of dating are far removed from how you used to do things back in the day. And then of course, there is the fact that you aren't 18 anymore, and you may be a bit nervous about just how much of a difference that is going to make.

But be brave! Take the plunge. If you want to find someone, you are going to have to start meeting people. Once you start meeting people you can take time to get to know each other. And each step of the way you can decide whether or not you want to continue getting to know each other. Maybe you'll decide it isn't going anywhere. If that is the case, then it's time to move on. Don't be so bent on finding a spouse that you make a major commitment to someone you frankly don't even know yet.

With that premise in mind, don't make the first dates too heavy, too long, or too complicated. For example, do not suggest a weekend away. In fact, in the beginning, don't even suggest something that will commit you both to hours together-- so try to stay away from three hour drives, or bike rides.

Instead, choose other activities that just allow you to get to know each other and plan your activities accordingly. A place with loud music, or where talking is out of the question like a movie or play is not going to enable you both to learn more about each other. Perhaps going for lunch, meeting for coffee, or for some mutual hobby, will be the right setting to get to know each other better.

Everyone comes from different backgrounds. Maybe you've been married before, or maybe you've never married and always wished you had been. But it's important to keep in mind that this is the beginning of a relationship and not a marriage proposal you are embarking on. It is also not the reincarnation of your first husband or the boyfriend who you always wished you had stayed with. This is a brand new human being with the prospect of a brand new experience. Keep it simple.

Keep it short. Keep it casual. If the chemistry is right and the spark is there, later dates will be happening and matters can unfold as they should.

Jody Smith is a freelance writer for Empowher.com

Sources:

How to Overcome First Date Anxiety

http://seniorliving.about.com/od/sexromance/a/seniordatingFD1.htm

Are You Prepared to Avoid These Common Senior Dating Mistakes?

http://www.better-relationships-over-50.com/senior-dating.html

Related Links:

Sexually Active Seniors are Happier -- Is This a Surprise?

http://www.empowher.com/sex-amp-relationships/content/sexually-active-seniors-are-happier-surprise

Hey, Seniors Love Summer Vacations Too

http://www.empowher.com/active-adult/content/hey-seniors-love-summer-vacations-too

Road Trip! Seniors Behind The Wheel 

http://www.empowher.com/active-adult/content/road-trip-seniors-behind-wheel

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